Be There for Yourself

Pictured above is the Accountability section of my online Intake Form for new clients. It's a relatively new addition to my intake process.

I had to add it, because I was losing people. They were having success after success after success and then... radio silence. Not a lot of people, but enough to start forming a noticeable pattern. I was starting to scratch my head. I began my business to help as many people as I could, and it felt like I was failing some. It kept me up at night.

It spurred me to do a deep dive and go back and ask those folks the hard question: Where did you do? Why did you quit?

The answer was resoundingly: lack of support.

What's more: The overwhelming majority of these stumbling blocks came from within that person's very own life.

Their home. Their family. The people who are meant to care the most.

If I were the type to apply for research grants, I might apply for a research grant to study why we feel uncomfortable when the people close to us attempt to improve themselves. Until such time as I secure that funding, I put on my Optimist hat and declared this an opportunity to help people help themselves.

"I am prepared and excited to embark on change."

Apparently nobody likes change. Well, I need you to get over that pretty quickly my friends, because - in case you didn't get the memo the first hundred times I've posted it in this blog and on social media: if nothing changes, nothing changes. It'll be hard (at first*), but I promise it'll be worth it. Get excited about it and stay excited about it, even in the face of detractors. (*After a while it actually gets really easy. Can you give me 8 weeks?)

"I have the support I need at home and in my life to succeed."

When I did my little research project, this came up more than any other barrier: "My partner/my family/my friends were unsupportive and derailed me. Once I got off track, I couldn't get back on."

During the tender first few moments of change, support at home is incredibly important. If you aren't getting it, untether yourself. Go it on your own (with my support).

Buy your own damn groceries, put them in your own damn cabinet, and put a damned padlock on the junk food your family insists on bringing home. Whatever it takes.

You had a real reason for wanting to make this change in the first place. Cling to that.

"I am prepared to hold myself accountable. I agree to check in with my Nutritionist."

I will help whenever and however you need, you but YOU have to do the work. These programs only work if you do. I can't possibly know what curiosities you've got or what challenges you're facing unless you tell me. Do the work. Do the work but do not be afraid to send up a distress flare when stuff gets hard.

What are your potential barriers?

What is going to motivate you to keep going even when it gets a little uncomfortable?

Heck, these two questions are good for almost anything you encounter in life - nutrition, fitness, exterior home painting... With nutrition change, it is most definitely going to get uncomfortable at some point - probably pretty early on, before you've even seen any tangible results. I'm going to take away things that you love to eat, things that you are (believe it or not) addicted to. I'm going to encourage you to eat, move, sleep, and live in a way that you just haven't done before.

It's going to get a little weird. Remember why you started.

Barriers are Unique

There is no way to predict what might derail each individual. No way to build a wellness practice that can anticipate how to lend a helping hand to everyone. So I put the onus on clients to check in with me, as often as they need to. I don't care: email me or text me all day, every day if you want. Ask me EVERY question. Run ANY query past me. That's what I'm here for - to help you learn WHY to make change, and HOW to make change, and - most importantly, as I've learned - WHAT to do when you encounter a struggle. I've got the answers, as long as you give me the questions.

I need to hear from you so that I can walk you around your unique obstacles.

I'll be there for you.

But more importantly, you need to be there for yourself.

Do it for you.


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